You Are So Worthy

Discovering Your Self-Worth Despite Challenging Circumstances

Does life always seem to be a struggle for you? Do you feel overwhelmed and frustrated much of the time, because you wish you could experience something better? Well fortunately you can enjoy the peaceful and fulfilling life you deserve.

No matter what success looks like for you, it’s available in spite of your challenges. You are worthy of it and it's important to remember that your self-worth is not defined by your circumstances.

What holds you back? Take some time today to really think about and question the beliefs you hold that limit your potential. What do you think and believe about yourself? Do you even know how strong you really are? If you look at a challenge as a wall that's impossible to climb, then you need a fresh perspective. You will never get over that wall until you change the way you think about it. Everything you need to thrive and excel is right inside of you and you are going to have to tap into that strength to get over those hurdles. The more you question the validity of your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, the more success you'll experience in your life, and the more you will realize your worth.

Think of a circumstance in your life that you believe is preventing you from something you want. Is it a job? A relationship? No matter what’s holding you back, write it down in your journal, and get ready to challenge that limiting belief. If you do, you'll begin to move toward the success you deserve.

Use these strategies to maintain positive self-worth, regardless of your circumstances:

1. Find the cause. What is causing the turmoil in your life? Sometimes, limiting beliefs can serve as warning signs that help you avoid danger. What can you learn from this, so you avoid triggering a similar situation in the future?

• If the cause of your situation is unclear, ask friends and family for their input. Better yet, try speaking with a therapist, life coach, or someone who can help you view things as they are and not as you want them to be. Others see your life from a different perspective, and their input can be valuable in determining the root of your difficulty. Just make sure you choose someone who isn’t going to sugar coat shit.

2. Get past the blame game. You can often be your own worst critic. Fortunately, negative self-talk often has little basis in reality. Choose to replace the doubts of your inner critic with more productive thinking.

• Once a negative thought has taught you its intended lesson, it has served its purpose. If you choose to hold onto those negative thoughts, they will begin to form a negative self-image in your mind. This unbalanced view of your talents and strengths holds you back.

• Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts about your circumstances, learn the lesson, and resolve to move on. Find out what you can do differently to avoid a repeat of your present situation. Then, when negative thoughts enter your mind, choose to replace your self-talk with productive thoughts instead.

3. Cut yourself some slack. Recognize that you're human. Everyone makes mistakes, but your attitude determines your altitude in life. You are valuable regardless of your present predicament. You are worthwhile even when you slip up or falter. Your circumstances simply provide feedback and an opportunity to learn and grow.

4. Make the most of it. When you recognize that you're valuable despite your circumstances, you'll begin to make the most of every opportunity. Stumbling blocks, you face can become stepping stones to the success you deserve, simply by changing what you focus on.

• Instead of feeling helpless, ask yourself: "What's great about this?"Every situation provides something of value if you look for it.

5. Ask for help. Loved ones and friends often see strengths in you that go without notice. Ask them what they believe your strengths are. This is where your self-worth is found. Everyone has something of value to contribute.

• Once you recognize your unique talents, gifts, and abilities, you'll see life in a whole new way. You'll seek opportunities to use your talents to bless others. You'll gain the confidence that comes from conquering challenges that once made you cringe.

• Instead of allowing your circumstances to dictate who you are, you'll make the rules.

6. Live one day at a time. Remember, we only have the present moment, and we only get to do this life thing once. There are no do-overs so make this shit count! Now there are going to be times that are chaotic. Despite your best efforts, some days simply provide one frustration after another. When this happens, you have a choice. You can let your circumstances defeat you, or you can choose a more positive perspective. Either way, you control what happens in your days on this earth!

Resolve today to find your strengths, learn from your difficult circumstances, and experience the joy you were created to experience. Instead of tying your self-worth to your circumstances, choose to see things as they really are. You were created with unique talents and gifts. When you find those gifts within yourself and put them to use, you'll know how valuable you truly are.