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5 Reasons You Cannot Get Your Needs Met

Updated: Jan 15, 2022

It can be frustrating when you find yourself in a situation where you have a need that is not being met. But, as disappointing as this is, it isn’t hopeless if you find yourself here. There are some reasons that may be keeping you from getting what you need , and from whom you need it.

Identifying them will allow you to take the necessary steps and make the needed adjustments to begin getting those needs fulfilled.

  1. They’re Unrealistic

In some instances, it’s hard to get your needs met because the list of requirements is unrealistic in some shape or form. This could mean that what you believe you need is not something that can be achieved, for instance, expecting a partner or a relationship to give you a sense of purpose. In this example, purpose is an internal drive and cannot be passed from another person or relationship; thus, expecting a person or relationship to offer you purpose and fulfillment is not realistic.

Another example of an unrealistic goal is expecting a particular need to be met by a person who cannot do so—for instance, expecting a child to offer emotional/romantic support. The nature of the parent/child relationship is not designed for the child to be an emotional/romantic support to the parent.

Thus, the child is not equipped to give this and cannot fulfill this need. In either case, adjusting needs or expectations can be necessary so that the needs themselves can be met appropriately.

  1. Say What You Need

No one is a mind reader, and a closed mouth doesn't get fed. If you don’t communicate what you need,then there is little to no chance they will fulfill those needs. Thus, it is crucial to set aside time with people to communicate what you need and how they can help you get those needs met.

  1. Lack of Clarity

An unclear need is just as bad as one not communicated. If a person is unclear about what you need or what role they can play in meeting those needs, they’ll likely be inactive altogether. Clearly outlining what you need, when you need it, and how you need it will eliminate any confusion, and you will likely be more successful. Allow questions from the other party to provide clarity and ask questions of the other party to ensure there is understanding.

  1. No Accountability

For some people, a lack of accountability means they will not do what they said they would do. Some people need a system or structure to check in with them to ensure they are following through. This can be as simple as setting deadlines or establishing a step-by-step process, and checking off tasks as you complete them. Knowing that they will have to answer to someone in some way regarding the needs you desire to have met will help keep them on target and give them something to work toward.

  1. Simply Not Interested

It can be difficult to accept, but you might find it challenging to get your needs met because the other party simply is not interested in doing so. Whether they’ve determined they are not able to or simply not willing to, someone who is entirely uninterested in being a part of the process of meeting your needs will not put any effort into doing so.

The quicker you can become aware of this, the faster you can move on to a place/person more willing or more capable.


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About Angela M Mitchell

Angela M Mitchell is the founder and CEO of Back to her. She is also a Certified Master Life & Personal Development Coach, a mental health advocate, and a Co-Author in the international best-selling collaborative masterpiece, The Image in The Mirror. She received a degree in Healthcare Administration from Bryant and Stratton College and has since dedicated her life to advocating for women who live with mental health disorders.

Angela also assists women entrepreneurs to acknowledge their struggles, change the narrative of the stories they tell, and rewrite them so that they can become deliberate, not desperate creators of their own life's story.

She guides them through a process of self-discovery that leads them to reignite their passions and rediscovering their God-Given purpose so that they can achieve the success they desire in their personal and professional life.

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